How to ask friends for responses

Invitation wording and choosing public or one-use links.

Explain your purpose

Ask how you come across in everyday situations, rather than asking for a correct evaluation. Friends, family and people from different settings may see different sides of you. Answering is optional.

An invitation you can use

Would you answer 16 questions about how you see me? It takes about 3 minutes and is free. Choose Not sure for anything you do not know. Only if you feel comfortable. Add your response link after this text; never add your recovery code. The record page also offers an editable invitation to copy.

Choose the right link

A public URL can be used by several people and may be forwarded. A one-use invitation is a separate URL for each person; whoever responds first uses it. These links are for asking about yourself, not secretly evaluating somebody else.

Respect each person’s choice

Do not demand a reason for declining or repeatedly remind someone. Do not promise complete anonymity: individual responses are hidden, but small groups or before-and-after differences can allow guesses.

Follow up with thanks

After seeing results, thank the people who helped. If appropriate, ask about an everyday example. Do not try to identify individual answers or ask someone to change them.

Create my assessment

Answer requirements and scoring

Answer at least two of the four questions per axis on the 1–5 scale. “Not sure” is excluded from the average. We average each respondent’s answers per axis, weight respondents equally, then convert to 0–100. An axis is X when the rounded whole-number score is 50%.

Percentages express responses on a 0–100 scale, not proportions of people, ability or diagnostic accuracy.

A public link collects responses; it does not publish your results. Anyone who receives a forwarded link can respond.

Reviewed 7 November 2026 · Penguin Engine